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I can honestly say that this is the weirdest thing that has ever happened in our lives. PANDEMIC, CORONAVIRUS, COVID-19…our children will never forget these names. Like the Bay Area earthquake of 1989 and 9/11 this is likely to be a huge marker in the timeline of our children’s lives. How we respond to this will make all the difference in our children. I talked about this LIVE on Monday March 16th which can be viewed below.
How to talk to your kids about a pandemic:
- Be the example of calm and peace first. Children learn through modeling which means you are on display big time right now. Check yourself and your reactions throughout the day as emotions come and go. Ride them like a wave and allow yourself to process what you’re feeling.
- Sit down to have a family meeting and explain “social distancing”. Use language like “we don’t want to share germs” instead of fear based words like “killing”. Explain to them that we can pass the germs without even knowing it and then others might get sick. This leads into why we can’t have play dates and friends over.
- Show them the pepper and soap experiment to show why we wash hands. Click HERE for a video on this.
- Talk about resources and why we need to not waste anything at the moment because we all get to stay home together and share our snacks.
- Let your kids express their sadness, fear and disappointment and ask questions. It’s okay to not have all the answers. This might take a while to process so check back in with them later and don’t expect them to soak it all in at once.
- Talk about how you can be brave and scared at the same time and brave in your own decisions. Have them draw a picture of how they feel and what they can do to help. Kids want to feel powerful and lack more control then we do so do what you can to help make them feel powerful.
- Give them tasks to help out around the house but let them have space when needed. Routine is good but there are some days your children will just need you to hug them and throw out the color coded chart.
- Have hope and teach your kids what living out faith looks like. Following rules and being cautious doesn’t mean you don’t have faith it means you’re doing your part to stop the virus from spreading.
How are you all handling this? We’re 5 days into quarantine, homeschooling our kids, being a mom and dad while working at home together and it’s been tough. There’s been lots of ups and downs, lots of talks, hugs, tantrums, sibling rivalry, snacks, homeschool hang ups, swinging in our garage, some organizing and wine lots of wine ha ha. I was overcome with sadness and stress today and I let myself cry. It felt good to cry and release some emotion. But in the midst of all the losses there is still gratitude…Gratitude for health, more time with family, less distraction, more time to do things we’ve been putting off and ultimately time to go inward. I encourage you to feel your emotions and release whatever comes up and to allow yourself to go inward and use this time to grow.
The beauty of life slowing down is incredible if you go inward and use it for personal growth.
How most mornings look before we begin the day around 9:00am…everyone wants to be on mom.
One day for recess we went to the beach to hunt for treasure and get some energy out while still socially distancing.
I’m totally winging this homeschool thing but tapping into my inner artist is loving this time with my boys creating.
And then there’s the sad moments, the moments of boredom and confusion trying to make sense of what is happening in our world and thinking about what the future holds.
Waylon had a doctors appointment today to look at his broken arm and he got a new shorter cast. Seeing him smile that big and enjoy more movement was a bright spot in our day. His arm is looking great after a pretty bad skateboarding accident and he should have it off in 2 weeks. He can’t wait!
I asked on Instagram how everyone was doing and here are some responses. I thought it was important to share your voices too since we’re all in this together.
Sending so much love and grace to you now!