The Divine Feminine Explained

“Wholeness is not something you get, it’s something you remember.”
-Cory Mascara

What is the Divine Feminine?The Divine Feminine Explained

I was asked this question recently in the comments of a social media post. This week I posted an Instagram reel talking about one of my most controversial media posts. The post, a “tasteful yet revealing” capture of me in an embodied state of undress, was posted to social media as a love letter to my body after years of body image issues. I was hesitant to post this photo in the first place, but I loved it and I felt like it represented the spiritual journey I was on. It was just me, learning to love myself fully. I polled my friends and they all said, “post it!” So I did. I posted it for me, my younger inhibited self and I posted it for all the women who have ever felt shame about being in a female body. I did NOT post this photo for men. I did not post this photo for attention either. If I received attention for my body it was merely a projection of what others thought of the female form. It was actually a unique experiment for me and helped me learn who was safe in my healing process.

After I posted this image, I received a flood of celebratory comments from women who desired the same freedom. However there was a man from my church who took it upon himself to correct my liberated actions. He contacted my husband first with his concerns, told me I was NOT in God’s will, and then showed my post to other men and church leaders, all to inform me that I had sinned and was going down a “slippery slope”. This incident gave me the opportunity to grow. In order to see this growth it’s helpful to know where I started.

I grew up in a small non-denominational Christian church of a couple hundred people. Most of them had known me since birth. This family-like-community was loving and brought me comfort, but it was also confusing. I was taught that all were created in God’s image, yet I knew from a young age that God was a man. During my most formative years I watched the women do most of the grunt work around the church, host the gatherings, make casseroles for the potlucks, change the diapers in the nursery and teach the smallest children about Jesus, while the men were the ones on stage revealing to us the rules and guidelines for true believers.

In Christianity our most sacred practice is communion, also known as the Eucharist or the Lord’s Supper. This act is believed to signify the spiritual nourishment and unity of believers with Christ and with each other. Before we would partake in the sacraments believers were invited to share their weekly spiritual experiences or words that they received from God. But there was a caveat to this; only believers with male genitalia could share openly about their spiritual experiences with the Divine. Those with vulvas had to sit in the pews and listen. “And now would the men come forward to share.” I’ll never forget the uncomfortable feeling that would rise in my 10-year-old body as those words were spoken. I was angry, confused, feisty and frustrated. I would scan the pews and look at the boys who were younger than I, wondering why their spiritual experience was more valuable than mine. This was the first time I ever felt disempowered because my soul chose the body of a female.

The man that reprimanded me at 37 told me that the worst part of my post was that I wrote in the caption, “the journey to self love was part of my spiritual journey”. He hated that I associated God with my beautiful, powerful and dare I say sexy female form. Aha! I struck the toxic-Christian-male hornets nest. Even though this made my blood boil I relished in the fact that I now had a platform to share about my spiritual experience as a woman. How could the experiences we have in the body on this earth not be spiritual? Everything is spiritual…especially the female body that was designed to create & birth life. It is my firm belief that the modern day evangelical Church has missed out on hearing from the feminine heart of God, the women of the congregation.

This experience took me quite a long time to process. I justified, doubted, spewed unsavory words and met with others to fact check if I did anything wrong. However, there were poignant moments of healing for me through this process. The first, was after I prayed and asked God if I did anything wrong in posting this photo. My soul voice (the voice when my head and heart are connected) reflected back to me “This is your body, I made your body. Your body is good.”  Secondly, I would be remiss if I didn’t mention the men that showed up for me during this time. Instead of objectifying or shaming me, these men listened to me, validated my pain and encouraged my healing. Shout out to my husband Sam who said, “I support my wife, her friends and all women getting free” and a young male pastor who sat with me over coffee and said, ” I grieve for all the years I’ve missed out on hearing women speak about God”, after he first heard a woman deliver a Sunday sermon. These words were and still are healing balm to my wounded feminine soul.

This moment in my life launched me further into my research of the divine feminine. I desperately wanted to know the feminine heart of God and I wanted to see myself reflected in God. I wanted to know I wasn’t an afterthought and that my spiritual experience was just as valid, important and sacred as mans. I wanted to know that being spiritual and feminine meant more than women’s ministry tea parties, nursery duty and looking like a sweet woman with closed lips and a covered head. Here is what I have learned so far.

The divine feminine can be seen throughout many religious and spiritual traditions in the form of powerful feminine figures such as Shakti in Hinduism, Venus in Roman mythology, and in Christianity-Mary Magdalene.The Divine Feminine Explained

The divine feminine is soft but fierce when necessary, loving, and supportive and has qualities like receptivity, patience, listening, and caring for life. Regardless of gender, everyone can access their inner divine feminine; if they did we would heal climate crisis and there would probably be a lot more peace in the world. For me personally, the divine feminine feels like the mother heart of God, like I’ve returned home and I don’t need to do anything to be here. It’s a feeling of deservingness, like I wasn’t sent here on a technicality.

Here are some qualities of the divine feminine:

  • Intuitive
  • Heart-centered
  • Compassionate
  • Wise
  • Accepting
  • Forgiving
  • Collaborative
  • Reflective
  • Creative
  • Sensual
  • Kind
  • Gentle

Healing your divine feminine can involve a variety of practices that help you reconnect with and honor the feminine aspects of yourself. Here are some exercises you might consider:

  1. Self-Reflection: Take time to reflect on your relationship with femininity. Consider how you feel about qualities traditionally associated with the divine feminine, such as intuition, compassion, creativity, and nurturing.
  2. Journaling: Write about your experiences, thoughts, and feelings related to your feminine energy. Explore any past wounds or traumas that may have affected your relationship with your divine feminine.
  3. Meditation: Practice meditation to connect with your inner self and cultivate a sense of peace and balance. Focus on breathing deeply and embracing your feminine essence.
  4. Creative Expression: Engage in creative activities that allow you to express your emotions and tap into your creativity. This could include painting, writing, dancing, or singing.
  5. Nature Connection: Spend time in nature to connect with the natural rhythms and cycles of life. Nature can help you feel more grounded and connected to your feminine energy.
  6. Body Awareness: Practice body awareness exercises, such as yoga, tai chi or Nonlinear Movement to connect with your body and cultivate a sense of embodiment.
  7. Sacred Rituals: Create rituals that honor the divine feminine, such as lighting candles, using essential oils, or setting up an altar with symbols that resonate with you.
  8. Seek Support: Consider seeking support from a therapist, coach, or spiritual advisor who can help you explore and heal your relationship with your divine feminine.


The lap of the mother

I began last year in the emergency room with a bacterial infection that turned into sepsis. On my 3rd trip to the ER, my husband placed me in a wheelchair and rolled me through the hospital doors as I was slipped in and out of consciousness. He left me in the hands of an all female staff of doctors and nurses. I could feel my body shutting down and I struggled to breathe. Through fear and waves of nausea I asked my nurse if I was going to die and without hesitation she said,  “Not on my watch.” Because of this woman’s presence and her words I was able to release my last grip on life and relaxed into a mystical experience of being held in the mother’s lap. I distinctly remember praying that I would feel safe in the loving arms of mother God. Peace washed over me and I knew everything was going to be alright no matter the outcome. I felt like a child in the lap of the divine mother. The all female medical team saved my life that day and I experienced the fullness of the Divine.

After my brush with death, (Clueless reference anyone?), I recovered from Sepsis like it was a bad dream. I felt like I had a reboot on life and was seeing things very clearly. At this time I began reading the book “Mary Magdalene Revealed” by Meggan Watterson and it blew my mind. In this book I learned about Mary Magdalene’s cave of eggs “Grotto of Saint Mary Magdalene” in Saint-Maximin-la-Sainte-Baume, France. According to legend and some religious traditions, Mary Magdalene is said to have lived as a hermit in this cave for the last 30 years of her life after the death of Jesus. The “eggs” part of the legend comes from a story that says Mary Magdalene was sustained during her time in the cave by angels who brought her food, which sometimes included eggs. Some versions of the story describe how the eggs turned miraculously red when she held them, symbolizing the blood of Christ. The Grotto of Saint Mary Magdalene is now a pilgrimage site and a place of worship for those who honor Mary Magdalene and the divine feminine. It is considered a sacred place by many, particularly those who follow the traditions associated with Mary Magdalene’s life and teachings. When I read this in Mary Magdalene Revealed and learned about the author’s experience finding this sacred cave, I knew I had to go. I called a friend who happens to be a travel guide and in 4 months we planned a woman’s healing trip to France featuring a day visiting Mary’s Cave of Eggs.The Divine Feminine Explained

The Divine Feminine Explained

Finding the cave was a spiritual experience of its own. I was the guide but I had no idea where we were going. We followed the green marks of paint on rocks along the path and wandering up and down the side of a mountain for 2 hours. When we were about to give up and head back to our van one of the women ran ahead to see what was beyond the edges of where we had been. As we turned back and walked a few yards in disappointment we heard a resounding “CAVE!” in the opposite direction. She had found the cave for us all. We followed her voice and celebrated as sisters that we had found this sacred place for the feminine. I can’t really put into words what happened there because words don’t come to mind when trying to describe a mystical experience but I’ll try. When I entered Mary’s cave I felt a coldness that wasn’t cold, an energy that was euphoric and I watch in awe as each woman had her own unique experience with the divine. I felt my younger self, the little girl who wondered if she was an afterthought to God, smile at me from the inside out.

The Divine Feminine Explained

The Divine Feminine Explained

Embracing the divine feminine has been essential to my healing process. The feminine asks us to come together and unite in our humanity. To favor the divine masculine in spirituality is to ignore the very energy of creation that we all come from. We’ve lived too many years without the balance of the feminine and mother earth is crying out for it.  The essence of spirituality involves going within, which, as we know, is a more feminine quality. Overall, the divine feminine is seen as a powerful and empowering force that can help individuals connect with their inner wisdom, compassion, and creativity, as well as promote greater harmony and balance in the world.

The Divine Feminine Explained

Divine Feminine France Trip 2024

In recent years, there has been a renewed interest in the Divine Feminine as a way to honor and revere the feminine aspects of spirituality and to promote gender equality and empowerment and I am here for it!

If you’re interested in this work and healing, please reach out to me to book individual coaching sessions through my contact me button. If you’re interested in my 8 week Transformational Coaching Program: The Embodied Woman please click HERE for more information and or to reserve your spot. Divine feminine healing starts March 18th!

The Divine Feminine Explained

With love and healing,


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